Do you find yourself feeling continually tired -physically, mentally and emotionally? Do you find you have "no time" to do anything you want? Do you have a full life with a packed (or overpacked) schedule of activities, friends, and plans? Do you feel you get no appreciation for your efforts? Have you ever been accused of giving too much?
These all may be signs that you are an Over-Giver. There are also many more subtle signs as well like not having time to watch your favorite show, put on lipstick, or call your mom.
See, it all starts with us. We somehow feel moved to give so much of our time, talents, and love, even when we don't get any return. We give and give, secretly hoping that we will feel ____. This 'blank' is different for us all. Instead, when we don't get our blank filled, we feel resentful, exhausted, fat, angry, and frustrated. That's no good!
So how do we give of ourselves (of which I am a huge supporter), avoid these awful feelings, and feel alive, powerful, and energized?
Here are 3 ways:
- Make time for yourself. This one is the most important one. Remember what the airlines tell us- get your own oxygen first before assisting others? Well, this applies here as well. Carve out time for YOU before scheduling in anything else in your life. This is part of "proper selfishness" that will ensure that you are feeling amazing so you can GIVE all you want the best way you can. You will feel powerful, self respected, and fulfilled, so you will better know how much to give to others and when to stop. Just listen to your intuition.
- Listen to your body. Our bodies are constantly telling us things: Take a nap, get off your feet, that person is toxic, etc. Take 2 minutes each day at the same time of day to close your eyes, breathe, and listen to your body. You will know what it is telling you and why. As you get good at this, you will be able to do this at any time during the day, meaning you will feel something in your body, and know what it means right away. For example if you meet someone and your gut is feeling tight or your throat is closing up, you may want to listen, and keep your other senses open. There is a reason.
- Weed out the takers. Empathy is good, but not everyone is good for you. As Over-givers, we feel compelled to help everyone and see the good in everyone. (I am a recovering over-giver). Now, just because someone has some good in them, it doesn't mean you have to help them! It doesn't mean you have to be friends with them, win their respect, or listen to their drama. Remember the 'blank' you want to feel, and if you are trying to fill it with helping this person, run! (and how else can you attain this feeling?) We want to hang around people who uplift us and have gifts to share with us as well. Friendship is a two way street, so whether it's time, a listening ear, a meal, or whatever, learning to receive from others (because you deserve it) is a key to your Over-giving recovery.
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